Self Improvement Starts With You!
The journey of improving yourself is a beautiful experience. It starts with questioning yourself about what you aspire to be and how you could make that happen. Most people have that thought, but they never exceed action. Self care is not selfish and should always be a priority to the people who want change. In order to improve the soul you have to dig deep. Past traumas are the main reason why you may feel stuck in your own ways. It all starts with the want to change. No action will bring progress. It starts with you!
According to the Very Well Mind article, the author Monica Johnson proved that the bias towards pessimistic thoughts will draw more attention toward the bad things in our life. Your thoughts are what make you who you are. For example, if you are in public and think that everyone is staring at you, that thought will make you become anxious and now when you so happen to catch eye contact with someone you resort back to that negative thought.You are what you think about therefore thinking negatively will change your physical. If you are a negative thinker then you are a negative person. Before you blame someone else for their actions reflect on yours. We could be the problem without even knowing it.
We need to continuously improve our ability to assess people's motives. Not everyone is your friend. Just like people take romantic relationships slow, we should also take our frienships slow as well. Good people are often taken advantage of. According to studies people show their true colors at 3 to 6 months. Instead of giving so much in the beginning withdraw and analyze, let them show you who they really are. Sometimes when the motivations shift, even the closest of friendships can turn against you. It's very difficult to let go, but eventually after you do, you will realize how much better your life is without them. You'll do more harm than good if you hang onto people who aren't intended to be in your life. Many weak links will be revealed as a result of personal path to becoming a better version of yourself. In any relationship you have, whether it be with a friend, a coworker, or a member of your family, ask yourself these questions. Does your perception of your ideal self match who you are when you are with this person? Is this having a good or bad impact on your life?
After reading your articles, I was amazed by the information that you managed to convey in only three paragraphs. When it comes to self improvement or self love, one of the first hurdles you have to cross is recognizing that you deserve to have a break, be allowed to improve, or even have be allowed to take care of yourself mentally. Cutting out toxic parts of your life is not only difficult to recognize, but it is also sometimes a social stigma to cut people out after you've been friends for so long. You should not let what others define your happiness however. Only you are able to decide what's best for you.
ReplyDeleteI really appreciate what you said about taking time to for relationships. Surrounding yourself with positive or negative people have a direct impact on your soul. If you choose to let people into your heart you need to be careful of who it is. Weeding out negative thoughts is also very important. We are our own worst enemy. When I start thinking negatively or start to be fearful of situations I have certain fraises and quotes I will chant in my own head to free myself from my own self doubt.
ReplyDeleteGreat post! Help is so important and its something I often struggle with! "You are not your negative thoughts" is such an eye opening quote to me. People so often get stuck in the mind set that they are strictly their own opinion of themselves, and forget that other people probably have wonderful opinions of them! Improving your self isn't an easy process, but it is well worth it!
ReplyDeleteHello! Your blog was really good. I loved how you talked about the negative thoughts because I a, an anxious person myself so sometimes I have to really calm my thoughts to be able to feel comfortable in a public environment. I found what you said about that very helpful. It is true you are what you say and you'll believe what you think. The negative energy that you put out will be exactly the energy that you will receive.
ReplyDeleteI feel like the industry is actively trying and succeeding in making "self-care" into a business that we forget we don't need to spend money on books, podcasts, life coaches, etc., to learn to take a little of REALISTIC time for ourselves. Sometimes self-care is just ten minutes in your car, taking deep breaths, or an extra five minutes in the shower listening to your favorite song. It feels as though saying "self-care is a priority" is super easy, but I'd love to see more talk about self-care possibilities for those whose schedules are packed throughout the day. I mean those of us who work full time, attend school, have a spouse, have children, and then those children have their activities (sports, school, programs, etc.) We don't supply enough credit to those overperforming in life, and yes, those are all choices brought on upon themselves - but isn't that part of becoming a better version of yourself?
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely right! I understand where you are coming from because I am a full time college student with a job. Viewing self care as a purchase is toxic and companies profit everyday from it. Self care is simply doing the thing that makes you happy. It can be as simple as buying the food you want or getting a facial. Both are very effective for the soul.
DeleteI really like your take on self-care! I really appreciate how you highlighted that our self-care is greatly influenced by those around us and who we are actively choosing to associate with. Friends are supposed to be there for and support you. When our relationships become more harmful than hurtful or become focused on one person, it is often time to reassess or let go of these connections. If we have to go against our ideal selves and our wants and needs to be friends with a person, that is a bright red flag that the relationship is toxic. Additionally, it is important to step away and look at our lives as a whole and see how this one relationship is affecting our relationships with other people and ourselves.
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